Todayâs buyers are overwhelmed with too much information â delaying purchasing decisions and resulting in lost sales. In order to compensate, several sales professionals are either over-accommodating or creating high pressure which alienates prospects in the process.
So, how does a salesperson meet sales targets while satisfying the customerâs desire for a heartfelt, authentic sales approach? Shari Levitinâs new book Heart and Sell answers just that.
In Heart and Sell, Shari shows you how to blend the new science of selling with the heart of human connection in order to reach more prospects and consistently close more deals.
Peak Sales Marketing Specialist and Sales Hiring Expert Taylor Dumouchel caught up with Shari to discuss her new book:
Shari, what was your inspiration for writing Heart and Sell?
Several years ago I was teaching a sales seminar in Mexico, when a salesperson in the back of the room raised his hand. He said he liked the strategies I was teaching,  then he asked, âBut wonât the customer feel sort of, well, manipulated by all of these sales techniques?â
I had never been asked that question before, and it threw me.
Fortunately, that evening I was invited to dinner with the top salespeople at the seminar. An older gentleman introduced himself as Apapacho. âApapacho?â I asked. I hadnât heard that name before.
He said it was  a nickname meaning âhugger,â or âaffectionate one.ââ He told me that heâd never received formal sales training, but absolutely loved his customers. At that moment, I knew I had my answer for the salesperson in the back of the room and, much later, the idea for my book, Heart and Sell.
This experience set my mind in motion. I started to ask myself some questions. What makes a great salesperson: nature or nurture? Whatâs more important in selling: techniques or genuine empathy? What if you could combine the two â both heart and sell? Seeking answers to these questions, I made it my mission to study top sales leaders and salespeople in various industries.
For each person I studied, I asked myself:
- What did they sayâand what didnât they say?
- How did they do it?
- Did they have secret tricks or best practices they could share?
I learned that top salespeople know how to balance the science of selling with heartfelt connection. They also understand that, unless they really know themselves, theyâll never truly connect with their customersâor anyone else, for that matter.
They know that what you do matters, but who you are matters more.
The Ten Universal Truths contained in my book are all about achieving that balance and connecting more deeply with your authentic self.
The book is a model for how to blend the new science of selling with the heart of human connection in order to reach more prospects and consistently close more deals. What makes selling with the heart more effective?
We live in a world of fake news, or whatâs been called, âThe Post Truth Era.â Trust is more difficult to build than ever before. A recent Gallup poll found that customers consider salespeople such as real estate agents, auto dealers and phone reps among the least ethical of all professions; only lobbyists and members of Congress ranked lower! If we as salespeople arenât coming from a place of integrity, customers know it instantly. Todayâs buyers, as Iâm sure youâll agree, are savvier than ever, and theyâre wary of staged presentations and canned pitches.
Itâs  the combination of both skills and character, the mixing and blending of these ingredients together, that creates long term success. In his book, The Road to Character, David Brooks (opinion columnist for the New York Times) discusses the difference between âresume virtuesâ and âeulogy virtues.â According to Brooks, resume virtues are those skills you bring to the marketplaceâqualities like drive, competition, and gregariousness. The eulogy virtues, on the other hand, are the ones people will talk about at your funeral. Were you kind? Honest? Empathetic? Loyal? In the book, he states, âMany of us are clearer on how to build an external career than on how to build inner character.â We need to ask ourselves, âWhat do I want my legacy to be? How do I want to be remembered?â Selling with heart means knowing what to say and do, but sustained success requires virtues like integrity, empathy and optimism.
How can a salesperson build a strong relationship with a prospect but be assertive at the same time?
Top-performing sales reps build a structure to ensure theyâre performing the right sales steps in the right order. But they also know when to turn the heat up or down depending on the emotional reaction of their prospects.
In my experience, many salespeople either lead too much with relationship or are too aggressive. They donât have the structure, the mastery, or the confidence to make it, as Goldilocks says, âJUST RIGHT.â
The Middle WayâRespectfully Assertive
Respectfully assertive salespeople continually ask themselves:
- Am I providing valuable insights that are distinct from my competitors?
- Is my prospect bored?
- Is she engaged?
- Do I need to ask tougher questions?
- Is she fearful? Have fight-or-flight hormones hijacked her brain?
- Should I ask them to buy now after that obvious buying signal?
- Should I back off?
What are some techniques you recommend for salespeople to ramp up their rapport-building techniques and establish a sense of trust?
Most salespeople have been told that, to earn trust, you have to get your customers to like you. Thatâs backwards. Earning someoneâs trust doesnât start with getting customers to like you. It begins with empathy; with you caring about them. Trust follows empathy. Otherwise, weâre just another salesperson with a hand in our prospectâs pocket.
You become more empathetic by establishing rapport. Rapport is a precursor to empathy. Youâve almost certainly heard about establishing rapport in sales seminars youâve taken. In my experience, most salespeople are taught to view rapport simply as a box to check. Match and mirror. Pace. Thatâs all useful, but whereâs the humanity that animates this new relationship with your prospect?
Here is a sampling of methods to build rapport:
1. Be interested in their battles.
Each time you meet a prospect, find at least one positive character trait and offer a sincere compliment. Not just âHey, thatâs a cool jacket,â or âWow, what a beautiful bracelet!â Is he patient with his kids? Is he funny? Is her work fascinating?
2. Notice the purple hats.
Youâve probably heard the expression, âWe need to talk about the elephant in the roomâ. Think of it like this: If I invite you to our home in Park City, Utah for dinner, and there in the foyer is a circus elephant squatting next to the grand piano, would you say anything? If you donât, itâs going to be awkward for both of us. Likewise, when you meet someone whose appearance shouts, âLook at me!â You have to look. You have to comment. âNice hat! Whereâd you get those feathers?â or âHow long did it take you to get forty-six tattoos?â Selling would be so easy if we only had to sell to people with our appearance, background, and tastes. But thatâs not how the game is played.
3. Let them talk about themselves.
We trust the people who take the time to get to know us. But giving someone else the floor is difficult to do. Research from the Harvard Business Review shows that, on average, people spend 60% of their time talking about themselves, a number that increases to 80% on social media. The Greek philosopher Epictetus said it first: âWe have two ears and one mouth, so we can listen twice as much as we speak.â
You talk about the power of the âright questionsâ and how questions help us fall in love. How can a salesperson determine what questions are right for him or her?
Getting the attention of your prospects, gaining commitment and reaching consensus now is the greatest challenge salespeople face. In this age of information overload itâs difficult for prospects to sort through the clutter and the complexities of your product offering. You need to guide the conversation and travel the most direct route.
As an analogy, can you imagine driving from one end of the country to the other without directions? You may eventually get to your destination, but without a map or GPS, youâll take far longer than necessary.
Your customers may not be as flexible. When your presentation is too long or off-point due to a lack of precision, your customers, to continue the analogy, may simply run out of gas. Your customers today are busy. Theyâre overwhelmed. Side-road conversations that arenât relevant to them are simply an annoyance. Youâve got to keep them speeding down the Interstate; not getting lost on side roads.
Your job is to ask questions, I call this the discovery phase, so that you can provide solutions that are specific to their needsâthe WIFM or âWhatâs In it For Me?â Your questions must follow a logical orderâin other words, you start by gathering facts, and then progress to deeper questions that uncover customersâ problems and emotional motivators.
Craft a Discovery that helps you uncover what I call The Big Four:
- First Level Questions: Get the facts about your customerâs current situation with First and Second Level Questions.
- Second Level Questions: Find the problem- Dig deep to determine the implications of the problem.
- Third Level questions: Discover the dominant buying motive or emotional motivators
- Uncover hidden objections or concerns.
In Chapter 8, you discuss how most salespeople incorrectly assume that they can create a sense of urgency by threatening scarcity or appealing to greed. What is the most effective way of creating a sense of urgency?
No one cares if thereâs only two left, or the price goes up next week, if they donât want or need what you are selling in the first place. You canât hijack your customersâ minds and force your incentives upon them.
You canât create urgency without a prospectâs permission. But people will give you permission if they are emotionally committed to what you are selling. When you align what youâre selling with what theyâre feeling, they will open their hearts. And their wallets.
Iâve seen countless salespeople ask poignant discovery questions only to deliver a generic sales presentation. At this point, your customers want to know one thing: Whatâs in it for me? (WIFM). They want to know you can fulfill their desires and solve their problems. But before you can link their needs with your offer and make a compelling case for your product, you must confirm that you got the information right.
In other words, no matter what youâre selling, or whom youâre selling to, you must complete each of these three steps in order to build that vital sense of emotional urgency.
Hereâs the process:Â
⢠Confirm your customerâs wants, needs, and concerns.
Salespeople often assume theyâve discovered the accurate information, but they miss or misinterpret critical facts. And we all know what happens when we assume. Depending on your sales process, you can either launch into a confirmation statement directly after your Discovery or at the beginning of a follow-up meeting. Information confirmation is, simply, the act of repeating back the information you heard and getting confirmation that what you heard is, in fact, what the customer meant.
⢠Link their wants and needs to your product or service
- Good salespeople do a Discovery.
- Better salespeople ask the right questions in the Discovery to uncover the Big Four: First Level facts, Dominant Buying Motive (DBM), Problems, and Objections.
- The Best salespeople actually take the information from the Discovery and link it emotionally to the features and benefits of their product. And then gain comittment. Our brains love stories, but our hearts cherish them even more. For years, I told this story to couples who, at the moment of truth, just couldnât make a decision. It almost always pushed them over the edge.
⢠Create an emotional experience through evocative stories and a memorable sales experience
New research confirms that hearing the right stories at the right time cause the brain to release oxytocin, the neurochemical responsible for empathy. Oxytocin, dubbed the âMoral Molecule,â by neuroeconomist Paul Zak, makes people more trustworthy, generous, charitable, and compassionate! Researchers experimented on customers in a sales environment, having them ingest oxytocin through their nasal cavity to see if they would become more trusting and empathetic. (I figure if you can get a complete stranger to sniff an unknown chemical, he probably trusts you already!)
Even if your prospect is interested in the facts of your offering, he wonât be inspired to act without his emotions leading the charge. Your customer may think your solution is right in his head, but heâll only take action when it feels right in his heart.
You mention that top performers celebrate the word ânoâ and learn from it. Why do salespeople need to hear the word ânoâ and what techniques can they use when they hear it?
Salespeople are often taught that Noâs are a necessary evil, or a hurdle to overcome. But top performers think of Noâs differently. They look for the Noâs. Instead of setting goals for the number of Yesâs they get, they actually celebrate their Noâs and learn from them. As Winston Churchill said, âSuccess consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.â
I find that many salespeople simply donât know what to do when they hear the word âNo.â So here are some guidelines:
Listen fully before you respond. Donât become defensive. I am always amused at salespeople who apologize or criticize customers when they disagree. Breathe. Let the customer finish their train of thought. Now ask yourself: is this a deal killer? Many objections are validâthe customer just needs more information. Some test you to gauge if you will answer their concerns truthfully.
When I hear an objection in the sales process, I listen fully. I validate the concern by saying âI can absolutely see why youâd feel that way,â or âThatâs a valid concern.â I may even state their objection more strongly. âYou certainly donât want to invest in a product that doesnât work for you. It sounds like you have enough on your plate.â Then I wait for agreement. When I hear it, Iâll confirm: âThis is good. Weâre on the same page.â
You canât bring someone to your side of reasoning if you wonât first move to theirs! Now, you can share more information, ideas, and an awesome rebuttal.
Remember that questions are often objections in disguise. One of my business school students worked for an aircraft-part manufacturer attempting to close a major deal with the government. The customer asked, âHow much testing did you do?â
My student was taught to ask himself: Whatâs the real concern here? Whatâs the ânoâ or the barrier underneath the question? By doing so, he discovered that what the customer was really asking was: Is this model safe? Do we need to launch additional testing before bringing it to market?
Again, think before you act. No never means no. Which means you should never bulldoze your way through with a rebuttal. Instead: listen, analyze, and respond to the concerns the customers expressâand the concerns they may not even know to express.
Know when to isolate a âno.â Youâve had it happen before: Customers that rattle off question after question, concern after concern. It sounds like an endless sea of ânoâs.â Donât give up. Instead, ask a question that isolates the customerâs concern and listen carefully for the response.
A hotel company who books large events and weddings was working with a very upscale client. One of their top salespeople, Natasha, had answered about 10 questions when the customer asked, âDo you allow pets?â
Instead of answering yes or no, she isolated the concern by asking, âWould that be important to you in your decision to secure a venue?â
The customer thought a moment and said it would be nice, but not essential.
Some questions arenât a ânoâ at all. You just need to isolate the deal breakers from the chatter.
Finally, can you tell us how using the strategies mentioned in your book, and selling with the heart, has helped you?
Writing Heart and Sell and attempting to live the truths in Heart and Sell, has helped me redefine happiness and contentment. Mastering happiness is the same as mastering any skill. Whether youâre a professional artist, musician, or athlete, it takes persistence and time to become a master.
You need to do a lot of little things right; it requires tireless determination and consistency in your attitude and efforts. It can be a real challenge to wake up happy everyday. Thatâs why you need to make a conscious choice to incorporate rituals of happiness into your daily practice.
Positivity is a skill. Like a golf game, it must be examined, practiced, and perfected. Make these small rituals a part of your lifeâand I guarantee youâll see a big impact.
I also learned from TED speaker, Sean Anchor, that this âHappiness fuels success, not the other way around.ââ when you feel positive, dopamine floods your system and not only makes you happier, but turns on the learning centers in your brain, making you more receptive to new ideas and solutions. I not only feel happier, but mu business is booming.
Most importantly, I have learned why I do what I do, so I keep on going when times are tough.
As Frederick Nietzsche said,  âHe who has a why can endure any how.ââDonât just ask yourself why you do what you do. Ask yourself: who do you want to be? What gives your life meaning? This is the most important question we can ask ourselves. Itâs a much more important question than, âWhat are my goals? What actions must I take to reach them?â Everything, from your goals to your strategies, flows from knowing who you are and why youâre doing something.
Iâve learned that to get trust, give trust. To earn respect, give respect. To be applauded for your talent, look for talent in others. The happiness that comes from excellence cannot be bought; the joy derived from sharing your heart cannot be measured. Building skill matters, but building character matters more.
Click here to order your copy of Shariâs new book, Heart and Sell.Â
About Shari:
An internationally known sales strategist, writer, speaker and entrepreneur, Shari Levitin is CEO of Shari Levitin Group, a global training and consulting firm with clients in over 48 countries, and one of Inc. Magazineâs Fastest Growing Companies.
Companies including Hilton, Hyatt, Adobe, RCI, Jaguar, Wyndham Worldwide, financial service groups, and countless individuals have all benefited from Levitinâs pioneering Third Level Selling⢠techniques. Shari Levitin Group also includes Levitin Learning, a unique virtual university with more than 240 online courses. Levitin is also an adjunct professor at the University of Utah, David Eccles School of Business, teaching their first ever graduate sales course entitled Pitch Perfect.
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